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Are you in a toxic relationship? by Andrea Fortune
Are you in a toxic relationship?
Hello Fellow Soul Traveller!
If you have been thinking that there is a deeper reason for what is occurring, but don’t know what it is . . . you are not alone. Over these last months I’ve been contemplating it too.
Without knowing the whole reason, I do know there is currently a planetary frequency, like no other in history. There is a crack between worlds and the veil is thin, making it easier for us to reach into inner realms to transform, heal, and release old patterns. During the Covid-19 upheaval, we each have the chance to do something extraordinary. You can go back to the drawing board to rewrite your personal life, which includes questioning your relationship and whether it is bringing you happiness or dimming your light.
There have been a few delightful Corona love-bird stories but the social distancing rules have forced couples in not-so-happy situations to spend long periods of time together, often in close quarters without outside distractions. Add the additional stressors of working from home, tighter finances and home schooling in the mix and this may have left some people crawling the walls and planning their escape.
Is your relationship past it’s best-before-date, or is it just going through a challenging time? Below is a list of 10 toxic signs to look out for. How many of these list items are present in your relationship? For each item you could put a check mark against, count up and score yourself out of 10.
Does your partner ever:
• Belittle you?
• Blame you for starting arguments when they did?
• Stop you from seeing friends and family?
• Accuse you of having affairs?
• Control your money?
• Tell you what to wear and even what to think?
• Use a GPS locator on you?
• Access your social media or check your phone?
• Destroy precious belongings?
• Invade your space or follow you?
0 – Great! your relationship is looking healthy
1-3 – This is at the warning stage, keep an eye on things
4-7 – You are definitely in a toxic relationship and should leave before it gets worse
8-10 – Get out now if you can
So, if you are in an emotionally toxic relationship or have just left one, but are not sure how to move on, get help as soon as you can. It is never worth sticking in a bad relationship because:
• You are worried about being lonely – you’re preventing yourself from meeting someone better
• You don’t think you will cope on your own – that’s your abuser talking!
• Or that you “still love” your abuser – this is NOT true love, it just feels like it.
Dependency on another person feels a lot like being in love. It isn’t.
You need someone to bring out the best in you and sometimes you have to be your own hero first.
Find the strength and the courage to ditch your toxic partner and feel the relief of freedom.
If you need someone to talk to, please don’t hesitate to call me for an in-depth consultation on your past, present and future situation, and what to do to bring love into your life. I am also running a tarot workshop for people wanting to upskill and learn a powerful tool of self-empowerment.
